One facet of the relationship between a parent and child that lends itself to the world of psychoanalysis is the gender differences relating to the relationship of father and daughter or mother and son.
Each of these relationships is often a loving one that lasts until one of the two individuals (usually the parent) passes away. However, psychoanalyst Patrick Mahony and others in his field are far more interested in delving into the dynamics that result in behavioral quirks. These manifest themselves into what’s become known as either “daddy issues” or “mother issues.”
While the latter instance can also include daughters, it’s the sons that are usually looked upon as a more fertile area of research. That’s due in part to the image presented of sons who remain closely attached to their mothers even after getting married.
Such images denote a weak individual who might still have separation issues. That might be the result of having a mother that was more domineering in nature or one who was forced by marital circumstances to raise her son by herself.
By the same token, a man who makes little or no contact with their mother is also perceived as battling similar issues. Minus that direct contact, the man may give off clear signs of the type of relationship he had by his discussions with friends or a spouse. Negative vibes about the man develop if the comments take on a whiny tone or place all of the blame on the mother.
When it comes to women and their relationship with their father, a more provocative tone is usually apparent. That’s because Patrick Mahony has seen the general perception of this connection as being one that invites sex-based images to surface, with promiscuity usually at the top of this list.
Women who have “daddy issues” are also seen as ones who are uniquely attracted to much older men when it comes to the idea of personal relationships. The absence of one with their birth father is usually offered as the basis for this thinking, with the idea being that the man she chooses can help replace the void that arose in the original connection.
The mother and father may ultimately be blameless in certain situations, but Patrick Mahony is confident that the continually changing fabric of the nuclear family will guarantee that new forms of this phenomenon will arise